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Four issues: 1: Racist LBH laowai who think they are better than Asian men. They think they are God's gift to Asian women or women in general. 2: Racist white culture that always think Asians are beneath them even if Asians are rich and well educated. 3: Racist white parents who want their children to marry other WASPs. 4: Racist western media spews out lies about China for their ridiculous political agenda. The Chinese people are hard working, are family oriented, and do not cause trouble. They don't deserve western media's lies about them.
Feb 29, 2016 18:39 Report Abuse
Fine, then go away you little troll. No one believes your make believe life.
Feb 29, 2016 20:04 Report Abuse
I'm really curious to know whether you have ever actually left China and seen with your own eyes what other cultures are like. If you did I think you would be in for a shock. Also I must say, working 12 hours a day where 10 hours are spent playing on your phone is not working hard it's called working for a long time. Sending your children off to be raised by somebody other than yourself is not being family orientated. And yelling and screaming at people in Chinese when you're in a foreign country is called causing trouble. Jumping in front of people who have been queued for a long time is called causing trouble. Being loud in a hotel at early hours of the day when people are trying to sleep is called causing trouble. Generally being obnoxious and disrespectful of other peoples cultures because it isn't your own, believing that your own culture is the bee's knees of all cultures and no aspect of other people's cultures is worth knowing is also believe it or not called causing trouble. For you personally who I believe is a Chinese person you should know that going around calling people "LBH" and "Laowai" because you know full well that people don't like these terms is called causing trouble. Even if you're the only prick in China then that proves that not all Chinese people are nice people.
Mar 07, 2016 13:46 Report Abuse
Worst thing about China...the IGNORANCE...I cannot bond with dumb people...
Mar 16, 2015 03:15 Report Abuse
Worst thing about foreigners....the loser funk.....I cannot bond with people who are failures in life and want to portray themselves as the opposite of what they really are.
Mar 01, 2016 23:17 Report Abuse
Worst thing about people... the incessant need to categorize... I cannot bond with people who are not in my category because they think differently to me... BTW Guest14480640 your use of the word 'foreigners' has completely proven kaitangsou's point about ignorance. You clearly can't see the difference between a Filipino and a South African. Not to mention that strange concept called individuality.
Mar 07, 2016 13:24 Report Abuse
I really don't agree with what written in this article....personal speaking, it is non sense.
Apr 28, 2013 10:44 Report Abuse
Reading about all the struggles here makes me think that coming here and marrying into a Chinese/foreign family did not make life any easier than where I came from; as attractive as it may have seem in the beginning. On the contrary it seems so difficult to really figure out if I really connected with a women or on what level and why we are actually together. They, the women here seem automatically attracted to any westerners, and I feel sad listening to men who brag about their achievements here saying that they struggled at home to have a women interested in them but here they can’t shake them. So I doubt my value as a human creature /a man, and think that I am only attractive due to my status “a white man with a western passport and a deep pocket”. I agree about the language barrier, when you don't understand what is being said and when she persists about her beliefs and shuns yours, when money is so important and you become insignificant when you don’t have enough it does not feel encouraging, loving or caring. And so I catch myself comparing my relationships with western women with those here. I know what many of you will say, but the exterior cannot always subsidize personality and the ability to understand each other’s thinking. The initial cuteness eventually fades.
Apr 26, 2013 11:23 Report Abuse
The new middle class are only interested in accumulating material wealth and the devil take the hindmost!
Apr 30, 2013 15:08 Report Abuse
If you like a clean house occupied by an obsessively clean woman who inspects say my feet before we go to bed, you'd appreciate how my Chinese wife runs the house. Make a mistake and I go straight to the dog house.
Apr 30, 2013 15:05 Report Abuse
I've found that to be true with my wife. I'm sending this message whilst she is out. Unfortunately you are right, even though my wife is virtually fluent in English, she has virtually no interest in the arts politics, religion, culture , you name it. We went for a 3 month holiday in Europe. Argued a lot. I loved the art especially and the archaeology. My wife had hardly any interest at all. She hardly ever discuss's the holiday. She now says she prefers to stay at home and not socialise. I am a social animal. Someone said recently that Chinese women are only interested in 2 things,food and money. My wife cares much more about food and can't stand anything western. The other question i have for you all, is it your experience that they are control freaks and try to run you and their house as clean as a hospital?
Apr 30, 2013 14:55 Report Abuse
To Jessica - THANK YOU - It was so nice to read this article and see that somebody has the same issues and it is not just me. I have lived here for 12 years, speak fluent Chinese, have a wife who speaks only a little English and two children that come with a mother-in-law as part of the package! I totally understand all the points you are making and it is clear you have either been here a long time too or just packed a lot into the time you have and reflcted upon that experience.
To the negative viewpoint holders I would say, treat it as somebody sharing their experience. It may be different from your experience but their is no need to be insulting on a personal level because you do not understand someone's perspective.
With it being close to my perspective, I find it refreshing and comforting that others go through the same and also still have a positive view of sometimes frustrating situations.
Thank you again Jessica and enjoy your time in China!!!
May 25, 2012 19:57 Report Abuse
You're not fluent in Chinese buddy! Don't lie! It's "Yingguoren", not "Yinguoren."
Feb 29, 2016 19:58 Report Abuse
Language is the big one as it creates laziness in communication. I find I don't talk to my Chinese wife as much as I have talked to former girlfriends and such because it can be a hassle sometimes. Same with her. Not big issues, but I find I don't make passing comments about things because I have to explain them too much.
But whatever, I still lover her and we have fun in other ways, like showing each other how to cook food from our respective cultures and such.
May 25, 2012 15:12 Report Abuse
when you are talking to Chinese girlfriend or boyfriend.if they do not know anything about what are you talking about or what want to express at that time they will be passing an idiotic expression on their face as if they are understanding whatever you are talking about they will listen to you with damn seriousness but later if you do not get the reply, all the explanation, examples and moving round,round, round in the discussion is useless.
do you know whats the funny answer of it ?THEY DO NOT WANT TO LOSE FACE. if this term, concept, dilemma and the MOST idiotic sentence existence in their mind i do not find a successful marriage between foreigner and Chinese. Successful in this sense whenever you expect from your future wife and she becomes like that. equal and opposite action and reaction. to my 4 year experience in china. MONEY is their god, materials are their happiness. I have serious relationship in past and now as well in present but i am unable to find the spark, i changed myself to it as well, but all in vain. its had to change their ideas.
May 25, 2012 08:47 Report Abuse
my name is orna,54 years old israeli girl,single.
i am very fond and interested in china and it's people.
i especialy like the chinese guys.
i wish to meet a chinese guy about my age for longlasting friendship in spite of the distance.
feel free to contact me.
orentaub@zahav.net.il
Oct 15, 2011 16:20 Report Abuse
its really sad and depressing to hear you i hope some sense can get into his mind. whatever you have done is entirely for both of you, hope and pray he can understand it. if he does not,i hope you can cope with the consequences and aftermaths.its total stupid of him,every person has his own mental tolerance you expressed your feeling because you might felt bad whatever he said before those words coming out of your mouth, but taking the relationship for granted like that.i guess he does not understand what is on the stack right now.i wish and pray good luck to you hope your situation get better. for me Chinese and making them understand is far better harder then finding a new earth for living in universe. they are stubborn-stupid-stubborn. do not mind my words.
May 25, 2012 08:53 Report Abuse
My wife said she admired one of her former boyfriends, because once she was in the wrong but he apologised to her!!!
Apr 30, 2013 14:39 Report Abuse
I think it's either getting more common or is just more common in the current province I live in. I've recently moved to Jiangsu having previously lived in Guangdong and Zhejiang. I am honestly shocked how often I see Western women with Chinese boyfriends here. To the point now that it is more common than seeing Western Men with Chinese Girlfriends. I think this is mostly because of the rise of Eastern European women coming to China who seem far more open to having relationships with Chinese men than other westerners.
Mar 07, 2016 12:05 Report Abuse
and Chinese women have such strong characters! Do you find that they like to live in hospital clean environments/ Very hard!
Apr 30, 2013 14:29 Report Abuse
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