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Wow, I agree with both Mark and Michael. We cannot discount the Chinese parents who want their child to marry a Chinese man or woman. I mean, Chinese parents are often times more important than true love. However, I also believe that it is true that Chinese men are too patriarchal and are less gentleman like. I mean, I know Chinese men that literally smell like sh*t because they don't use toilet paper to wipe themselves. It is my firm belief that the reason why a lot of Chinese women seek foreign men is because foreign men are more romantic and are gentlemen. I also think that being a gentleman does not mean being feminine. Which I believe is another complaint from Chinese women about Chinese men. So, I think what is attractive about western men is the mixture of being a solid rock, yet still knowing when and how to caress their women.

As a matter of fact. I think that most western men have had to put up with western women at least once in their lives, and it has made them into more desirable men because of it. In other words, western women have trained us well. Let's face it, western women hold a higher position in society due to their fighting for it. And I totally think this is a good thing. So they expect more from their men. We've learned this, so when we come to China and see the competition is easy, it makes it less challenging to date a Chinese woman. In addition, the push for equality in western societies often times overreaches into denying a man the right to be a man. I mean, we're talking about gender roles as much as equality. Often times, I believe that western society has a tendency to try and cannibalize a man's role in this world. Whether or not men and women are equal, we are different. However, I believe there is a line between the two. I think that comparatively speaking, Chinese women are easier to please. Although some are worse complainers than western women.

Here is a good example of the difference, I never have to explain to my Chinese girlfriend the role of a man or why I do the things that I do. However, when I was dating a western woman, I always had to explain to her what I believed was the role of a man and I had to back it up with good evidence. In the West, "boys will be boys," but then they must conform to their girlfriends wishes. In the East, "boys will be boys," and it is accepted as the norm.

One last point. I did research in family law pertaining to biases among court rulings when it came to child custody and other issues. One major opinion from lawyers, judges and others involved, was that women, (not men), but women of western cultures, are more inclined to seek divorce rather than to work on a struggling relationship because they know they will most likely be met with little opposition when asking for custody and property. In other words, women would rather divorce than to work on a struggling marriage. Therefore, it comes as no surprise to me that western men are more attracted to the Chinese woman's point of view that divorce is considered to be a "last resort." Marriage, in China, for "saving face" reasons or whatever, is still highly regarded as a permanent thing. I think that a lot of western men that seek Chinese brides are looking directly at this type of dedication.

This is why you see so much exporting of western men to Eastern countries. Western women should wise up if they want to remain competitive in this global society.

Jan 29, 2011 03;53
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